couples therapy
You know you love your partner. So why do you feel so distant?
“I am so lonely in this relationship. He doesn’t understand what I’m going through and why I’m so upset. All I want is more understanding and validation from him.
“We never spend time together anymore. We’re always with the kids, working, or distracted on our phones. It feels like our relationship is last on the priority list.”
“I’m so exhausted by our arguing. It feels like we have the same argument over and over and never get anywhere. I wish we could just communicate better and enjoy each other. I hate it when we argue all the time.”
“It doesn’t matter what I do, it’s never enough. Why won’t she just back off and stop criticizing me? I’m worried I’ll never be able to make her happy.
“I’d love to have sex more often, but it feels like we never want it at the same time. Sometimes it feels like my partner doesn’t want it all. I miss the intimacy we used to have.”
“I’m afraid that this situation we’re going through is going to ruin our relationship. I’m afraid that we’ll keep drifting apart and never recover. I don’t want to end the relationship, but I also don’t want to keep feeling miserable.”
If any of this resonates with you, you’re in the right place.
Your relationship with your partner has so much impact on who you are and your quality of life.
Most people want their relationship to be happy and healthy, but often don’t know how to make it better when they start to drift or when they start having more conflict. It’s especially tough to know how to reconnect when something stressful or really painful happens. Even though this is the time when you really need to be able to lean on each other, so many couples drift apart and stop communicating.
But how can our relationship get better?
Your relationship can get better; sometimes you might just need some help to get there. So many couples come into my office broken, disconnected, angry, and not even sure if they love each other anymore (much less like each other). They don’t know where to start or how to heal.
If you’re willing to try, willing to listen, willing to be vulnerable (even if that all sounds really hard!), things can change. Healing can happen. I’ve seen it. And I’d love to help. I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is supported by decades of research and is considered to be the gold standard for couples therapy. I utilize EFT in conjunction with other empirically validated methods to help you and your partner transform your relationship into something you love that brings you joy.
Abby Nordquist
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Share with your partner how you’re feeling and why you react the way you do. I’ll help you share this in a way that they can actually hear and understand.
Understand your partner’s perspective…even if it’s really different from yours.
Map out the cycle that happens between you when you argue or get disconnected.
Learn new ways to respond to each other… so that you don’t have the same argument over and over again.
In Couples Therapy I can help you:
Share with your partner how you’re feeling and why you react the way you do. I’ll help you share this in a way that they can actually hear and understand.
Understand your partner’s perspective…even if it’s really different from yours.
Map out the cycle that happens between you when you argue or get disconnected.
Learn new ways to respond to each other… so that you don’t have the same argument over and over again.
so What’s next?
Reach out for your initial phone consultation. We’ll chat for about 20 minutes to discuss logistics and to make sure I’m the right fit for you and your partner. Choosing the right therapist is crucial to the process and I want you to have the best therapist for you, whether that is me or not.
Couples therapy Specialities:
-
adjusting to parenthood
Has parenthood been harder on your relationship that you anticipated? Couples therapy can help you navigate the emotional, relational, and practical changes you are experiencing so that your relationship is stronger and more fulfilling than ever.
-
EFT Couples therapy intensives
Is your relationship struggling and you need relief quickly? EFT Couples Therapy Intensives are a way to get powerful results in your relationship more quickly than traditional, weekly therapy.